Arrangements between beautiful girls and successful older men

It used to be said that beautiful girls had little, if any trouble getting the man they desired. It was also said that it was just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as a poor one. Having said this, lets delve a little deeper into the world of those beautiful girls who have chosen to enter into arrangements with older more experienced and wealthy men. These women are called sugar babies. Such women come from all walks of life and may themselves be of an affluent upbringing or possibly from more modest means. The connection between these beautiful girls may be a relatively simple one, they both want to live a better than average lifestyle and are searching for the instrument that will get them there, the ‘Sugar daddy’.

The role of the sugardaddy has been interpreted in a variety of ways over the centuries, from that of a nobleman becoming the mentor of younger woman of standing in early Europe, to that character brilliantly portrayed by the legendary Maurice Chevalier in the movie ‘Gigi’, where he explains to his nephew, played by Louis Jourdan, that marriage need not be the only choice. Beautiful girls have always had the ability to catch the eye of men, especially those men who have achieved much in their lives, possibly at the expense of an abridged version of their youth. To these men it seems like a small price to pay to support and educate these young ladies in return for the companionship of a charming and energetic beautiful girl.

The key to a successful relationship between the well-to-do gentleman and the beautiful girls he desires is that of luxury and kindness, for this must be more than a business arrangement; it must be based on mutual respect and a shared vision. Many in the media have portrayed the role of the Sugardaddy and his Sugar Babies as something similar to that of only a sexual liaison, but they fail to understand that this relationship goes far beyond the physical, and quite frequently may lead to a long term relationship and in some instances marriage. The arrangements between beautiful girls and successful older men has been going on for centuries and will continue to do so. The significant current state of these relationships is that they are now out of the shadows and can be enjoyed without the secrecy of the past.

Hugh Hefner’s women

A very common question asked by the millions of Hugh Hefner fans, both men and women has always been, who has the Playboy founder and original Sugardaddy been linked to over the years. The interesting fact is that if you are a frequent visitor to the many blog sites found on the Internet discussing this topic, there is a very high probability that you were not even born when this man began his ascension to the throne of the sexual revolution.

Naming all the gorgeous women that have been romantically linked to Hugh Hefner over the years could take days to research and analyze so for the purpose of time we will just gloss over some of my favorites.

Not every girl that Hugh Hefner has dated has been a Playboy Playmate of the month, Barbi Benton, (I had such a crush on her when I was young!), did however appear in the magazine on several occasions. Barbi Benton met Hugh Hefner in 1968, at the time he was 42 and she was 18 and this romance lasted approximately eight years.

Lillian Müller appeared as the Playmate of the Month in August 1975, and became Playmate of the Year in 1976. Marilyn Cole also romantically associated with Hugh Hefner was playmate of the month for January 1972 as well as Playmate of the year for 1973. Can we see a pattern emerging here? It would seem that Mr. Hugh Hefner was running his own version of the baseball minor league system and then bringing them up to play for the big team!

We all know of Shannon Tweed, currently, happily not-married to Gene Simmons of KISS fame. Shannon was chosen as Playmate of the year for November 1981 and playmate of the year for 1982. She dated Hugh Hefner from 1981 to 1983.

Hugh Hefner was actually married to Kimberly Conrad playmate of the month for January 1988 and Playmate of the year for 1989. Although the marriage ended after 10 years, the two are still legally married and have two children together.

There have been many, many women in between those we have chosen to discuss as well as “The Girls Next Door” showcasing the three blonde beauties that have lived in the Playboy mansion the past few years, Holly Madison, Bridget Marquardt and Kendra Wilkenson. The relationship with these women and Hugh Hefner has subsequently ended but the Sugardaddy Dating endeavors of this 83 year old man are far from over.

Hugh Hefner is currently dating Karissa and Kristina Shannon, identical twin models who are rumored to be 2009’s Miss July and Miss August in a special summer issue of Playboy. Some of us dream it, and some of us live it!

Dating a married man

In today’s society there are all types of relationships, and with the advent of online dating you would need a psychiatrist to understand them all. But the sheer number of people surfing the Internet brings about problems that have been around for ages, but are now amplified by the ease of entering an affair or love triangle online. Couples have struggled with these issues forever, and often seek advice from within that same dating community that causes Infidelity to begin with. But, if a Sugarbabe see’s no problem in dating a married man, it then falls to the wealthy man to decide if cheating is a road they want to go down. From personal experience, being a Sugardaddy has nothing to do with adultery; my own philosophy is if you are married, you should not be a Sugardaddy, unless you are single, divorced or separated. Dating many attractive women is a wonderful thing, but the personal accounts of such activities described by friends who engage in such affairs, leads me to believe that there is always a consequence for such actions and is more of a problem than the answer to what troubles you. In a quick question and answer session with a friend over coffee and a bagel, (I love my Sunday morning bagels!), my good friend suggested I was an expert at such information and began to use me as his resident advisor and personal support group.

I referred him to a blog post I had written many months ago about a group of friends who would constantly go down to Costa Rica to gamble and enjoy the local culture, and by culture I mean women. As they were boasting of their conquests, I happened to suggest that maybe their spouses also looked forward to their trips south of the border so they could indulge in similar activities. After about an hour of debating these issues back and forth we decided that I should create a series of videos allowing others to benefit from my wisdom or at least embark on a television career which would undoubtedly go over well among female fans. Some of my buddies here in South Florida are of Latino descent and come from many countries in South America, such as Columbia, Bolivia, Mexico and many others where the Latin people and the Latin culture may view the Sugardaddy lifestyle much differently than the way many Americans or other cultures do. So it comes down to a moral issue on what the individuals involved think and not what society thinks.

Again, I want to stress that my opinion, although count pretty much only for me are that to be a proper Sugardaddy and engage in the Sugardaddy relationship, you need to be unattached and unencumbered by a wife and family lifestyle. Your Sugarbabe is with you to realize her dreams of living a better than average or upscale lifestyle in addition to enjoying the companionship of a wealthy intelligent man. If you split time between two worlds, you do a disservice to both.

Weather and women

Living here in the tropical climate of South Florida, I have come to realize that the weather can change in an instant. One minute it can be bright blue skies and the next the wind picks up and a torrential downpour begins. What makes this even stranger is that you can actually see the weather begin to turn and then come at you. Many times it will be raining cats and dogs a block away but, the sun will be out and it is smooth sailing a hundreds yards from you. The key to avoiding getting caught in this storm is that you can actually see it coming and have time to get out of the way. This is incredibly similar to the mood swings of many women I have dated. The only real difference is that in the weather scenario, I am usually smart enough to come in out of the rain, with the women; I get pounded by the squall!

Men should almost always see these storms coming, after all in previous decades there was a reason that hurricanes were always named after women! We can usually see the storm in a woman’s evil little mind starting to brew and intensify in strength, yet we still stand there and wait for it to reach maximum ferocity. We stand, watch and wait. Why is it that we know that we are about to get pummeled, yet we are not smart enough to run for cover. The analogies of women and those beautiful things found in nature are endless, we have already discussed the beautiful calm before the storm, but there is also the stunning rose that will draw blood with its thorns as readily as will deliver that sweet smelling aroma. We need to remind ourselves as men, that also there is extreme and exquisite segments to a beautiful woman, we need to be on guard for changes in the force! After all, doesn’t the black widow spider quite often kill her mate?.

Relationship Compatibility

Are you someone that can appreciate the architecture of a unique building, or someone that notices each distinct change in the transition of seasons? While it’s a fact that a good portion of the population is attune to visual stimuli and the intricate nuances of everyday life, many may not realize that this trait easily carries over into the dating world.

As humans, we are often drawn to meet people that are like ourselves; whether it be in socio-economic status, political views, profession or hobbies. However, if you are someone that is drawn to the simple pleasures of life, such as a bug crawling on a leaf and the shapes the clouds are forming on a blue sky day, you may be unaware that you are already subscribing to the laws of attraction.

For those that appreciate beauty and aesthetics, the laws of attraction to meet people are best translated into seeking out those of great beauty and the most attractive of women. For those who value intelligent conversation and intellectual stimuli, those people will undeniably be drawn to those of similar intellectual depth and breadth.

The laws of attraction vary with each individual and of course can also change over time as each person continues to personally grow and expand their own interests. Because of this, some may consider the term “laws of attraction” an oxymoron, whereas there is no set law; we are all drawn to dating different types of people for different reasons. It should be noted that to meet people by means of the law of attraction does not suggest that there will be relationship compatibility for these individuals beyond dating. It merely indicates that there is a reasonable basis to begin exploring further possibilities.

It is the laws of attraction that initially draw us to another person, but it is chemistry that will form a lasting connection. Without chemistry, you are merely admiring the beauty or attributes of another.
While finding a possible companion attractive is important, and may be what originally caught your eye, there is so much more to be considered when building on relationship compatibility or just dating. So when meeting people or someone new, whether there may be romantic intentions or just a new friend, keep your eyes open to not only what is on the outside, but the substance behind the beauty.

Beautiful women are just as approachable as any other woman

when it comes to dating women there never seems to be a shortage of advice available. there are many myths floating around which can be quite misleading. One popular myth is that women prefer bad boys. For some women this may be the case but for the majority of females out there looking for a meaningful relationship, most would prefer to be with a nice gentleman who treats them well.  I think people are confusing bad boys with confidence. Have you ever heard of a bad boy who lacked self confidence? If a female is attracted to a bad boy, it is his confidence that is attracting her not his rudeness or abusive behavior.

Most nice guys tend to be somewhat shy and quiet which is fine but if they lack self confidence they may find themselves having difficulty attracting women. The ideal combination would be to exude confidence while at the same time being a nice guy who respects not only himself but others as well.
 The second popular myth is that women are not approachable. This is simply not the case as quite a few attractive women would actually welcome a man approaching her in a respectful manner. The problem is that most men are intimidated by gorgeous women and as a result many of these attractive females find themselves with very few dates. Beautiful women are just as approachable as any other woman which means you shouldn’t let their good looks intimidate you.

 

The third popular myth is that single women are after men who have a great deal of wealth. Once again this may be true for some women but for the majority of females this is not the case.  If a woman is attracted to a wealthy man, there is a good chance that it is not his money that has impressed her but rather his character. Acquiring wealth is not an easy task and it takes a special kind of person to be able to achieve such success.  Most wealthy men are passionate, well spoken, determined, confident goal driven individuals who are very clear about what they want in life. It is these qualities that women are attracted to not necessarily a man’s wealth.

Extramarital affairs

Extramarital affairs have been around since the dawn of time. It has always been portrayed in the movies and on television of how the married man gets the urge to stray from his marital vows. This was best illustrated by the movie starring Marilyn Monroe called “The Seven Year Itch” which has as its premise, that a substantial number of the male population will, or want to have such extramarital affairs after seven years of wedded bliss. This movie was released in 1955, lets now skip ahead to the 21st century and although men are still subject to that seven year itch, the time frame may have been reduced considerably, but the seven day itch is just so wrong, even in my mind. The new aspect of the extra-marital affair is that it is just as common for women to participate in such activities as men. Whether it is due to the women’s liberation movement or the increase in couples getting married for the wrong reasons or even the escalation of online dating, the fact is clear, extra-marital affairs are still a part of everyday society.

I am a firm believer that the increase and availability of online dating sites has amplified the number of extramarital affairs taking place. I have come to this conclusion not merely because of the sheer number of venues on the World Wide Web catering to every manner of need or fetish but because of the incredible expertise of the marketing departments of these websites. Just as the alcohol and tobacco companies utilize the newest and most effective advertising techniques to draw your business, so do the online dating sites. Just as it is required for an individual to be 18 or older to purchase cigarettes or booze, it is also necessary be of age in order to join most online dating sites. These extra-marital affairs are not totally the result of targeted advertising, but more so, the product of individuals that are not happy about something or someone in their personal lives and are just being a bit selfish as to how they combat those feelings. I personally would like to get back to the days when a man can come home to his wife and lie to her saying that he has been having an affair, as in today’s society it may be easier on him than telling her he was out playing golf!

Love Online

This post has to do with both men and women; you might even go so far as to call it a bisexual posting as the thoughts here can apply to either men or women. With the incredible surge in the online dating population the Internet dating sites have now become the pick-up joints of the 21st century, even more than that they have become the virtual hamburger helper of connections; just add IM’s and ‘poof’ you have a relationships. Now I truly understand how these instantaneous relationships come about; people have little time to scour the singles scene therefore may be longing to be in a relationship. It is relatively easy to strike up a conversation and take that to a friendship and then to a cyber-relationship. What freaks me out quite often is the speed at which a harmless little email can turn into a torrid love affair in a matter of days! I am not saying true romances cannot begin via the web what I am concerned about is how quickly individuals begin professing their undying love online for one another with out even having met in real life!

It is so hard for me to fathom how quickly people can say “I love you” while barely knowing the bare essentials of the other person. I’m not saying love at first site does not exist, but love after several clicks and emails is a bit much for me to comprehend. In the real world outside of internet dating it bothers me when someone says they love me after only a few dates as I feel that is a powerful statement and should not be used lightly. So, needless to say it is even more puzzling to me how online daters can use it so quickly and frequently. I invite those of you who prowl the World Wide Web to challenge me on this topic as I’m not sure as to whether I am justified in my way of thinking or just ridiculously old-fashioned.

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The Library is not only for books!

You can tell a lot about a person while observing them in the library; whether they are young, old, married or single, the book they hold under their arm and the periodicals they flip through can be very telling. I myself focus on the young singles. It is just so interesting to see what people in the library are reading and then try to figure out what kind of person they really are. Little old men reading the Wall Street Journal or young guys deep into the latest copy of popular mechanics might not be among those that I would be hanging out with on a regular basis, but I much prefer to see what the ladies are reading. This is not an exact science as I once dated a woman who was sitting by the window of the library with glasses on reading a magazine about knitting. She looked completely different when I caught her act at the pussycat lounge later that evening.

If you are looking for compatibility and companionship you might want to check out those individuals that you have some interest in as well and then strike up a conversation. Letts assume you see a lovely young woman perusing this month’s issue of “SKI” magazine and you are considering a trip to Vail or Aspen this year, (note: if you are contemplating becoming a Sugar daddy and don’t know where these places are…leave now, you are beyond redemption), so, this woman may just become a ski buddy that can quite easily turn into something more. Remember, when a best friend of the opposite sex becomes something much more, you have hit the jackpot! You don’t’ always have to actually spy on what a person is actually reading, you may just linger in the sections where that interesting literature is shelved. Just remember, what a person reads says a lot about what their interests are. OK, time for me to make my move, that hot brunette just picked up a copy of the “life and times of the Marquis de Sade!” Isn’t’ life great!

Sugar daddy and the single mom.

Men, love to date. This is a cold, hard, undeniable fact, and so do women. It is only natural that members of the opposite sex enjoy spending time together. I have a hunch God may have planned it that way. Unfortunately, too often these unions do not work out and the two people must go on their separate ways. All to frequently there is a blessed little event that may complicate the matter. Nowadays, singles moms are doing the staggering job of supporting their families by being both mother and father to their children. This requires incredible amounts of energy and self control. It is for this reason that when you begin dating a single mother you absolutely, positively must take into account that although you are dating the mom, it is a package deal. The little (or somewhat larger) bundle of joy may not always be with you in person, but you can rest assured that they will always be there in spirit.

If you are out to a nice dinner, you may be certain to receive at least one call from a child, depending on age or a babysitter interrupting with a minor crisis. If this call doesn’t come your date will wonder why and then excuse herself to go and see why no one has called. Do not be insulted by this lack of attention, it goes with the territory. Rule number one of dating a single mom, “the child always comes first”. Rule number 2 is “see rule number 1”! If you try to win over the mom to the exclusion of the child you will lose, and furthermore, you then should have no business dating a woman with a child as you clearly do not understand the situation. Quite often you will find a woman who is very secure in her situation and has everything under control, I have not found such a woman yet, but I hear they are out there. If this is the case than the rules don’t apply as the both of you are getting out of the relationship what is need. Such a woman would have no problems taking weekend trips or overnight stays as there is more than likely a trusted person behind the scenes. But if this is not the case, overnighters must be planned well in advance, The bottom line is, if a freewheeling, unrestrictive lifestyle is your way of life, then the single mom is not for you. However if being a part of something bigger than yourself intrigues you than dating the single mother could be extremely rewarding.