Hardly a day goes by when you don’t see a television talk show host mentioning the Sugar daddy dating phenomenon. The original and arguably the most popular dating site of the Sugar daddy theme is still going strong. Technology continues to re-invent itself and the applications that can be used to enhance one’s Internet experience continue to amaze me. I am seeing new smart phone apps available almost everyday that makes the online dating experience accessed from a phone almost as intimate as from your home PC. It makes me wonder where the online dating sites will go from here.
The reasons for joining an online dating site such as Sugardaddie.com are becoming abundantly clear. With an increasingly uncertain economy and the looming threats of government shutdowns, forced health care plans and rising costs of education many attractive women have turned to dating in order to be able to not only live an above average lifestyle but for survival as well. The majority of the men they date are more than happy to foot the bill for many of life’s necessities in return for the company of an attractive woman. The question then becomes is this type of dating moral or merely intelligent and attractive woman being much more selective in whom they choose to date?
As stated by many men and women who have gotten together through sites like Sugardaddie.com, is it not typical that people engaged in some type of relationship assist one another as they see fit? Don’t less affluent couples help one another through the more difficult times in their lives? Of course they do, its wrong that people be branded solely because of wealth or looks, after all they are doing the exact same thing that the average dating couple may do.
It’s just as easy to fall for a rich man or an attractive woman, as it is to fall for a person of more average looks and wealth. Sugardaddy themed websites merely make it much more efficient for those who choose to be more selective in their dating criteria to find exactly what they are looking for. There is no pretense on these websites, the members know precisely what they are looking for and any expectations are recognized.
Almost 12 years ago Sugardaddie.com recognized a need to create a venue for men and women who desire to live an above average lifestyle. They created a dating site in which they could meet, interact decide if their wants and needs were complimentary. Since then many sites have tried to emulate this one, but it’s always nice to dance with the girl that brought you!
Do you believe that we, as individuals, are attracted to certain types of other people? Are you someone that tends to gravitate toward single women that seem to have a common thread? For some wealthy men, it may mean you have a thing for blondes, for others maybe you tend to lean more toward high-powered single women in successful careers. No matter what your personal preference, it’s likely that you can relate to having a certain type of person that you look for in your mind, when exploring possible relationships.
For instance, I have a friend who seems to do nothing but date very attractive women. I brought this to his attention after having met his newest flame last weekend, asking him “are you really interested in these women for who they are or is it just what they look like?”. Having been in the same relationship for a little while now, I was curious and perhaps even admittedly living somewhat vicariously as I thought back to his recent string of over-the-top gorgeous single women. My buddy is not someone I would consider (but then again, what does one guy know about another guy in the way of looks) overly attractive; he has a great sense of humor, sometimes self-deprecating, which seems to appeal to attractive women and he is certainly a charismatic sort of guy, but how are all these super-model types drawn to him?.
After shrugging off the possibility that he could, in fact, be a shallow person drawn merely to aesthetics, he laughed and said “just lucky, I guess”. His inability to share specifics had me more curious in the human nature, wanting to get to the bottom of this. As his flavor of the month approached where we were reclined by the pool, I watched him lavish this gorgeous young blonde with attention, feeling the emergence of a cavity over the sickening sweetness of it all. Thinking back, I recalled how he’s always treated any attractive women he’s with, like gold. A-ha! I can only deduct that while single women in general like the attentions of a wealthy man, I’d imagine that it’s something about stroking the ego of attractive women that builds her up and makes her want more. So this is my very simple dating lesson of the day: If you want to be dating very attractive women, work on your people skills; the active listening, complimenting your date rather than contrasting, and plan on spending a lot of time over leisurely conversation showing you that you are 100% into her.
In today’s society there are all types of relationships, and with the advent of online dating you would need a psychiatrist to understand them all. But the sheer number of people surfing the Internet brings about problems that have been around for ages, but are now amplified by the ease of entering an affair or love triangle online. Couples have struggled with these issues forever, and often seek advice from within that same dating community that causes Infidelity to begin with. But, if a Sugarbabe see’s no problem in dating a married man, it then falls to the wealthy man to decide if cheating is a road they want to go down. From personal experience, being a Sugardaddy has nothing to do with adultery; my own philosophy is if you are married, you should not be a Sugardaddy, unless you are single, divorced or separated. Dating many attractive women is a wonderful thing, but the personal accounts of such activities described by friends who engage in such affairs, leads me to believe that there is always a consequence for such actions and is more of a problem than the answer to what troubles you. In a quick question and answer session with a friend over coffee and a bagel, (I love my Sunday morning bagels!), my good friend suggested I was an expert at such information and began to use me as his resident advisor and personal support group.
I referred him to a blog post I had written many months ago about a group of friends who would constantly go down to Costa Rica to gamble and enjoy the local culture, and by culture I mean women. As they were boasting of their conquests, I happened to suggest that maybe their spouses also looked forward to their trips south of the border so they could indulge in similar activities. After about an hour of debating these issues back and forth we decided that I should create a series of videos allowing others to benefit from my wisdom or at least embark on a television career which would undoubtedly go over well among female fans. Some of my buddies here in South Florida are of Latino descent and come from many countries in South America, such as Columbia, Bolivia, Mexico and many others where the Latin people and the Latin culture may view the Sugardaddy lifestyle much differently than the way many Americans or other cultures do. So it comes down to a moral issue on what the individuals involved think and not what society thinks.
Again, I want to stress that my opinion, although count pretty much only for me are that to be a proper Sugardaddy and engage in the Sugardaddy relationship, you need to be unattached and unencumbered by a wife and family lifestyle. Your Sugarbabe is with you to realize her dreams of living a better than average or upscale lifestyle in addition to enjoying the companionship of a wealthy intelligent man. If you split time between two worlds, you do a disservice to both.
Sometimes I feel it is important to step into the other person’s shoes and understand what makes them tick. It is in this way that the rich Sugardaddy can truly understand what attractive women want from the Sugarbabe relationship, and can therefore best provide what each desires. If you live in a major city that is known for spectacular surroundings and unique people such as Miami, you will most often run into very attractive women who are originally form small towns and far away places. These attractive women were more than likely the best looking at school and part of the ‘in-crowd’. They come to places like South Beach not just for the Sugarbabe relationship, but because they feel they are missing out on the excitement of life. Even the whole Anna Nicole Smith debacle held some allure for them.
These women come to town with stars in their eyes and the dream of meeting a wealthy man or benefactor, but most don’t even realize that the two may not embrace a typical Sugarbabe relationship. There are many wealthy men in the world but very few truly understand that a rich Sugardaddy is much more than a guy with deep pockets, he is a benefactor, and educator and most of all a friend who is willing to take you under his wing and impart his life experiences on you so you may have an easier time in your pursuit of happiness. Many affluent men may not have the young women’s best interest at heart and therefore cannot be considered a sponsor, but more than likely a dirty old man.
It’s important for young attractive women to realize that most of these types of Sugarbabe relationships are not long lasting, however this does not mean that something real and perhaps more of a traditional relationship is not possible. The more astute of these girls come to understand not only what they hoped to attain out of such associations, but what the affluent gentleman desired as well. There are many such girls coming out of the heartland searching for the same things and the competition is fierce. The wise young lady finds ways to stand out in the crowd and as such has a much better chance of being noticed and achieving the Sugarbabe relationship.
It seems like every time we turn on the television or pick up a magazine during a check out at the local grocery store we come face to face with one of Hug Hefner’s blonde haired Sugar babes, also know as ‘the girls next door.” It gets very confusing when you also hear that one the girls, Kendra Wilkinson is marrying a professional football player and another is linked to famous Las Vegas Magician Chris Angel. So, are these his girlfriends or is he just the incubator raising them in the ways of the world until these little chicks are ready to fly the coop?
I have always had the most incredible respect for Hugh Hefner. He began his empire when it was not as socially acceptable to be a Sugar daddy or to display nude woman in public or magazines. He may have been considered a pioneer in the sexual revolution of the 1960’s, and for me personally, he is a god for having had the beautiful Barbi Benton, (a country singer and sex kitten a few decades ago), wow!, did I have a crush on her when I was a kid!
So, I began to think about who was Mr. Hefner’s girlfriends? His ex-wife lives in the neighborhood with two of his children, he is constantly surrounded by a bevy of beautiful women, and his summer pool parties at the playboy mansion are the stuff legends are made of. As I looked over the Internet for information on Hugh Hefner and the many women he has had living at the mansion, and those he has been associated over the years, I have come to one main conclusion. This man could have single handedly caused a great Viagra drought for Sugar daddies worldwide! Since the rumors of Hef’s current women moving on with their lives is pretty well confirmed, the new gossip says Mr. Hefner now has a pair of blonde twins moving into the mansion, with the only lone hold out from the ‘girls next door’ being Bridget Marquardt.
As, a Sugardaddy who has learned much from the class and style of Hugh Hefner over the past years, I think about all the women he has had. I think about how much he influenced how men treat women, and how women now reciprocate with their men. I think about how sexy fashion that we have all grown to love and lust for, was in part influenced by the gorgeous ladies who have graced the pages of playboy magazine. I think about the young boy under the covers with a current issue of Playboy Magazine and a flashlight, hiding it from his parents. Hugh Hefner has so influenced the world of the Sugardaddy, that when someone asks me, “who is Hugh Hefner’s girlfriend?” I look at them, smile and say “they all are”!
It is not our job to solve every single problem for every girl we may come to know. It is well within our right to pick and choose who we assist and in what fashion we will help, whether it’s financially or merely emotional support. This may seem to some a bit harsh, but I have come to realize that at some point the return on our good natured friendship is not worth the effort we put out. How often have we offered to help, with no expectation of anything in return, only to have that person take advantage and rely on us for every little thing. Its ok, to help but when you start dreading that person’s phone calls, its time to put a stop to it.
Last night I had the displeasure of listening to a friend who is going through a difficult time. This person is extremely attractive, yet has had a self brought on run of bad luck, much brought on by a poor choice of friends and alcohol. I recently made a well thought out decision to remove all individuals who detract from my happiness, and concern myself more with those who add to my enjoyment of life and to find others that are without enough previous baggage to make the bellhop at the Palms think twice if the tip is worth it.
To all Sugar daddy types in the world, we are good people, but we are not morons. We are in this lifestyle not only because we enjoying helping others, but because there is usually something in the deal that makes it worthwhile for us, emotional or physical. When the Sugar daddy relationship becomes a drain on our existence it is time to move on. This is usually a great time to take time for you. Re-evaluate what you want out of life and what makes you happy. Re-design the strategy that you feel will allow you to achieve your goals. There will always be attractive young women, but there is only one you! Whether its time to lay back and smell the roses or tackle some project that you have been putting off for too long, the time you give others is time you will never get back, so if it’s that relationship has become not worth the time and effort spent on it, give that time to the most important person in your life…YOU!
Has anyone aside from me noticed that there is a direct correlation between the perceived looks of a woman and how much aggravation that a Sugar babe seems to cause? You would normally think that the better looking a woman is, the more demanding she will be, and the more drama that will accompany her. This is simply not true. If we allow for those that are more than likely insane to begin with, and remove them from our consideration we will almost invariably find that it is the only slightly better than average looking women who cause the Sugardaddies of the world the most amount of grief. It is also for this reason that you will almost always find that the affluent Sugar daddy is accompanied by exceptionally attractive women or reasonably plain women. It has been said that the average woman would rather have beauty than brains, this is mostly because the average man can see better than he can think!
Beautiful women know that they are extremely attractive and as such, can pretty much call their own shots when it comes to choosing a wealthy older man to spend time with. They know that if they are not getting what they want from this relationship, the next one is more than likely only a few days away. The plain woman, understands that she needs to try a bit harder to maintain the relationship, and most likely has some exceptional skills and abilities that make her desirable despite her average appearance. These two classifications of women usually make the Sugar daddy very happy, and as such he has a wonderful existence and the state of the relationship is usually under his control.
The slightly better than average looking woman is someone that is considered pretty, but needs to work hard at it. She is the one who relies completely on expensive clothing, manicures and attitude to set herself apart from the hordes of moderately attractive single females. She can easily be picked out of a crowd, not because of her appearance, but because she will always be the one with the shrill voice screaming the words “I want” or “I need”. She is the one you have seen at a restaurant scolding the waiter for not bringing her a menu fast enough. Much of this attitude comes from a childhood of getting everything she wanted but grew up not deserving what she did receive. It is the gentlemen who represent themselves to be Sugardaddies, but are on the low end of the financial scale who will tolerate such women. A true Sugar daddy will dismiss this individual after the first date. Remember men, money cannot buy love, but it can rent a damn close imitation!