Cougars: Approach with caution

Women Cougars scare me

For those of you not familiar with this term, a cougar is not just a wild animal found in the high deserts of the western United States, it is a vile and vicious creature whose range includes every night club and fine restaurant worldwide. This type of Cougar is usually a woman in her 40’s and older who has a sexual appetite for younger men. She may stalk her prey by using her vast experience and possibly wealth to lure young men into compromising situations. Many compare her to what is commonly referred to as a Sugar daddy, but this is an unfair comparison as studies have shown that the cougar is much more likely to conquer and move on. The Cougar in part is looking to regain some fragment of her youth by reliving pieces of it. This woman is also quite wealthy and influential, and thus may also be looking to exert power or control over someone who can be easily influenced. This is quite often the result of having been dominated herself as a young girl.

In the famous movie starring Dustin Hoffman as a young man, called “The Graduate” we could see a Cougar at work in the form of Mrs. Robinson” played by Anne Bancroft. She is the wife of Hoffman’s father’s business partner who has a fondness for young men. As in the movie, such affairs can, and usually do become complicated when the younger man falls for someone closer to his own age. The Cougar usually does not deal well with disappointment as control is a major portion of her relationships. There are exceptions made for Cougar relationships, such as if the cougar is a former supermodel who still looks like she could grace the cover of a Victoria’s Secret catalogue, but these exceptions are few and far between. So, all you young men who may be reading this blog, beware t hose cold rainy nights, when the wind is howling and you are chilled to the bone. If you happen to glance up and find yourself in front of a Pub with a neon lights flickering like the aurora borealis, don’t give in to the temptation of warming yourself with a quick shot of bourbon; keep walking as you have found the lair of the Cougar!

Sugar Daddy Hot Spots

A very good friend of mine used to constantly ask me how I would always return from a trip and walk off the plane with an attractive woman at my side. This was always a source of both amusement and frustration for him, as he got such a thrill to see who I would be walking with, (once it was even a relatively well known celebrity), yet it annoyed him as I never told him how I always seemed to find these young women. Well, today I reveal the secret. I’m one of those people that travel a lot and can’t stand to get caught in a crowd; as such I have several club memberships to various airlines frequent flyer clubs. It is within these hallowed halls that the pretty people hang out. In the Delta crown room, for instance, once past the gate keepers lies a world of fascination, where scantily clad women dance on the table tops and gourmet meals are served by the finest chefs, the top shelf drinks flow endlessly and all is perfect in the world. OK, now that I have your attention, its not anything like that, there are however plenty of comfortable chairs, private bathrooms and quite often nice snacks and overpriced but tasty beverages. All in all a very nice place to wait for a flight. Since I am never alone in these places, there is always someone to strike up a conversation with, and due to the location, most often that person too is used to a better than average lifestyle.

It is much easier to talk to an attractive woman in such a setting as it is quieter than the outside flight gate area, and you are usually pampered there as well. OK, here is the big key, if you happen to see a beautiful woman alone and begin a conversation with her, you can invite her into the lounge with you! This almost always has the desired effect of impressing the young lady and winning her over. Now comes the best part, the reservation specialists who check your credentials when entering the lounge would always be most happy to do some seat rearranging to allow you sit next to your new friend, and if you are seated in a first class cabin with empty seats, they may even offer a complimentary upgrade for the lady. This is the icing on the cake if you are attempting to make an impression for future possibilities. An important fact to remember is that if you are dressed like a construction worker, you are much less likely to receive any upgrades or attention! As I would depart the plane and head to my waiting friend to drive me home, I would always have already traded contact information with the lady, and with a kiss goodbye, I would leave my new acquaintance and head smiling to my bewildered buddy. Ahhhhhh, life is grand!

Boot Camp for Sugardaddies

I am getting so sick and tired meeting women in hopes of finding that special person, only to email them and in return I get a list of demands! I can understand politely asking what their allowance may be or some ‘let’s get acquainted’ requests, but these are outright commands. After all, I am the one who busted his tushy for many years to achieve an affluent lifestyle and some disposable income. The funny thing is, that I don’t blame the women who are making such outlandish requests as much as I blame the men, who in the past have given in to every pretty face that shows some interest. Being a Sugar daddy is fundamentally about influence and the ability to demonstrate for another a better than average way of life. If all I wanted was a woman to make demands of me and tell me what “SHE” wants in return for companionship, I would have been better off getting married!

I say this with all manner of respect to all current and potential Sugardaddies, although this is a mutually beneficial relationship, there is a far greater number of attractive women in the world than there are millionaires, and as such you need to be a bit more assertive, after all, you have the far rarer commodity. I quite often feel like running a boot camp for Sugardaddies in order to enlighten them as to proper procedure and protocol when having a dialogue with a potential dialogue. If an attractive woman immediately asks you for financial assistance without actually sitting and getting to know you, a red flag should up and you should walk, no RUN to the nearest exit. For the prospective Sugarbabe, if a gentleman immediately begins negotiations in order to coax you into his boudoir, this too should be a warning for you to choose another Sugardaddie.

A Sugar daddy and Sugar babe arrangement is a comprise, and while this is a quid pro quo scenario, it is not something that you can get merely by a quick stop over to the ‘Bunny Ranch’ during your next trip to Las Vegas. This relationship is so much more than a financial arrangement. It should actually be a caring relationship which allows both individuals to grow and experience new and exciting things. The financial aspect is only important if there is a greater amount of respect and understanding.

A Sugar daddy in the land of the BBW

A Sugar daddy by definition is a man of wealth and influence who is at a stage of his life in which he can fund the way of life of younger attractive women who are at a lower level of the great wealth pyramid. So, basically what we are saying is the guy with the coins is calling the shots. So why do we automatically assume that only exceptionally attractive girls are allowed to have a Sugar daddy? Face it, there are those affluent men out there who prefer to have woman that is a bit on the, umm, shall we say hefty size. I don’t necessarily mean so large that her belt size is ‘equator’, but just a bit larger than the average woman. We are not talking about personality or sense of humor (remember when we would get set up on a blind date and when asked what does she look like, we were told “she has a great sense of humor!); we are talking about the BBW, the big beautiful woman. We are talking Kirstie Alley before Jenny Craig.

If you go into a Ben & Jerry’s ice cream parlor, there are numerous flavors to choose from, nobody ever asks to sample the vanilla or chocolate as we know what to expect from those timeless tastes, but whip out a spoonful of Chunky Monkey and the place goes wild. The same may hold true for the women that a wealthy Sugardaddy may choose as a companion, for those discerning gentleman the BBW might be just the thing to fill a particular void in his life. The BBW knows that she is not the second coming of Christy Brinkley or Cindy Crawford, and she could care less. She is secure in her appearance and her way of life, she lives her life on her own terms. This air of security in her own skin may actually be the overwhelming factor that a Sugar daddy finds appealing about her.

The main thing to remember is that everybody is an individual and as such we all have different tastes and preferences. What may be undesirable to one person maybe worth its weight in gold to another. Society has programmed many into believing that a wealthy Sugar daddy can only be with a ultra slim super model. After much deep thought, I have come to the conclusion that this is only because in the early history of Sugar daddy relationships, the Sugar daddy had to pay by the pound.

Politics and Sugardaddies, not as different as you may think

OK, I know what you are thinking, this time I’ve really put my foot in my mouth, but if you take the time to consider the similarities you may come over to my side of the aisle or the boudoir if you prefer! What does a politician actually do? He listens to the needs of his constituents and does his best to provide for them. Since the money at his disposal comes from the taxpayers, his wealth may be substantial, but it is spent on the masses. Now, lets ask what the ‘Snake” I mean politician requires in return for taking care of you (the citizen), well, he wants your love and affection. This comes in the form of your vote each and every time he comes up for re-election. This is why the approval rating is so important to Politicians

Now for the Sugar daddy, this gentleman also has significant wealth behind him and he too wants to provide for the well being of those he cares about. The young lady he chooses to take under his wing will of course have her needs provided for. What she will give in return can also be love and affection and perhaps companionship as well. The big difference at this point (aside from the numbers) is that the politician’s rewards and expenditures are a matter of public record while the Sugardaddie’s terms are much more discreet.

 

I understand my comparison is a big stretch of the imagination, but think about it. Both the politician and the Sugardaddy are there to assist the needs of others while seeking something in return. This mutually beneficial relationship exists in the hallowed rooms of congress as well as the private bedrooms across America, and after watching the Presidential campaigns for the past few months, I’m not quite sure which type of relationship I trust more.

Sugar Daddy Gold

Being a sugar daddy in this financial downturn could and should have an upturn affect on women that find me appealing. I see it as Im like gold when things are going wrong in the business world lots of people turn to invest in gold.