A Sugar daddy in the land of the BBW

A Sugar daddy by definition is a man of wealth and influence who is at a stage of his life in which he can fund the way of life of younger attractive women who are at a lower level of the great wealth pyramid. So, basically what we are saying is the guy with the coins is calling the shots. So why do we automatically assume that only exceptionally attractive girls are allowed to have a Sugar daddy? Face it, there are those affluent men out there who prefer to have woman that is a bit on the, umm, shall we say hefty size. I don’t necessarily mean so large that her belt size is ‘equator’, but just a bit larger than the average woman. We are not talking about personality or sense of humor (remember when we would get set up on a blind date and when asked what does she look like, we were told “she has a great sense of humor!); we are talking about the BBW, the big beautiful woman. We are talking Kirstie Alley before Jenny Craig.

If you go into a Ben & Jerry’s ice cream parlor, there are numerous flavors to choose from, nobody ever asks to sample the vanilla or chocolate as we know what to expect from those timeless tastes, but whip out a spoonful of Chunky Monkey and the place goes wild. The same may hold true for the women that a wealthy Sugardaddy may choose as a companion, for those discerning gentleman the BBW might be just the thing to fill a particular void in his life. The BBW knows that she is not the second coming of Christy Brinkley or Cindy Crawford, and she could care less. She is secure in her appearance and her way of life, she lives her life on her own terms. This air of security in her own skin may actually be the overwhelming factor that a Sugar daddy finds appealing about her.

The main thing to remember is that everybody is an individual and as such we all have different tastes and preferences. What may be undesirable to one person maybe worth its weight in gold to another. Society has programmed many into believing that a wealthy Sugar daddy can only be with a ultra slim super model. After much deep thought, I have come to the conclusion that this is only because in the early history of Sugar daddy relationships, the Sugar daddy had to pay by the pound.

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53 responses to “A Sugar daddy in the land of the BBW

  1. You interest me more and more with your thoughts…

  2. Thanks for stopping by my site first and foremost.

    This was a good post! Question though…Is the BBW not found attractive by the average guy?

    You reference why she may be attractive to the Sugar Daddy but what about your average joe?

  3. Mimi

    Interesting, if only I could find a decent one that felt the way you do.

  4. Tanya

    No such thing…

  5. Mia

    Intriguing and insightful to say the least. Beauty is different to each individual. But if you are programmed by society to follow the media standard of the pencil thin model type only being the beauty, some become ashamed of what they truly find beautiful. That wouldn’t be the man for me. I need a man that can think on his own. :o)

  6. You hit the nail right on it’s head. we ALL need love and have the right to be spoiled too.
    it’s the same for a big man. I am proud to have a big booty, thin women get butt enhancements to get what I got.so who is to say I am not attractive just because of my weight? men,( and I know this to be a fact) love the junk in the trunk.
    some times you just got to give things a try…you might like it.

  7. bmysugardaddy

    Hi there,
    I love the article. It is sad the in America men tend to think beautiful is bone thin. Im a BBW Model and I dont have any problem finding men.. I just want to find the right one that I connect with who of course wants to spoil me.
    Though for my health I need to weigh less but Im still sexy.
    Have a wonderful day and again, thanks for the great story

  8. Tbaby76

    I was wondering if there really are sugardaddy’s that like BBW, and want to help a BBW out by funding a small business, or just help her out peroid. please e-mail me and tell me if you might know of any. Thank you and have a great day. Kisses from a BBW.

  9. It is great to see that men love big women. I knew it all along. Now why are some of the beautiful, older, wealthier men so shy about liking bigger beauties????? They have the money and the power, why does it matter what the next man thinks? Come on sugar daddy, I want to be your baby! Your friends will want me too!!!

  10. msdeedee

    i would love to find a sugar daddy, i’m a bbw that would love to spend time with a man for compantionship, i think this article is great.

  11. mollydear

    I find this intresting to. I have meet 2 S/D in the last year that treat me very well. Being a BBW yes it is hard to find a S/D that doesnt want slender thin model type. Glad my current S/D can see past the guy next door, and he is treated as well as he provide. :-)

  12. Joyce

    I have a question! Are sugar daddies out there for older women (late 40’s) and BBW ??? You can email with an answer if you like. BTW I’m in Northern Maryland. I’m tired of falling in Love just to be heart broken.

  13. kiki

    I think i’m considered BBW and i’m seeking a SD. Found one a few yrs ago but after a few meetings he said he wanted to pay me to gain weight cause I don’t look my height and weight.

    I’m 5’8″, 36h, size12-14. How do i get a BBW? It seems that i’m in between. Not large enough and far from being small enough.

  14. Joyce

    WOW, It’s hard for me to believe men would want us to gain weight if we fell below the BBW average size. Im 5’9″ and have been about 280lbs for 17yrs. But now I have felt proud of myself because I have lost about 30 lbs . I’m not trying to lose weight but cut out sugar in my diet because of type 2 diabetes. I do not exercise just my daily chores . I guess I should have never signed up here. I may end up too small for the site. Hmm ? Never ever thought I’d be too small for anything. I’m so used to being called fat by family and friends.
    Well God Bless everyone on here.
    But I feel for our on health men should except us for who and what we are. Our health is the most important. Take care. Have a Safe and Happy Holiday.
    Joyce

  15. kiki

    I think being considered a BBW is all about the proportions. I don’t live up to them. So then the question becomes who wants an avg size woman in general or as a sugar baby. A guy who wants her for who she is and not just jonesing on the size of her breasts or thighs or fat around her mid drift.

    there are hordes of men who love obese women and there are websites devoted to it. I even saw this thing with men who love to see fat women eat. It’s quite interesting.

  16. I would just like to say this was a nice try in addressing BBW and the sugar daddy thing, but it seems to me that it does not really say if BBW women get sugar daddies. Truth is what we see on t.v. and what is real are different. It is closited because it is still not publicly acceptable for men to outright say they like larger women. I know a few BBW women that have a few, yes a few sugar daddies as well as multiple boyfriends. These women are about 200lbs maybe more and they are confident and comfortable in their own skin. If guys were not attracted to BBW women the it would also not be the second highest grossing area of porn on the net either. There are some big women that are not beautiful, just like there are some thin women that are ugly also. I feel if you are confident and don’t have that I am a bbw, I can’t get a man thoughts, you will. Also don’t settle for the jerks out there, there are some that will use a low self esteemed bbw just because they think she should be lucky anyone is paying attention to her. There are some awesome guys that love all of you and are not users. Ther are users in every bunch.

  17. Kiki

    Annette D.
    I totally agree with you that this doesn’t address the issue appropriately. Do you have knowledge of place that does? I posted here in the first place to state my issue and perhaps gain some insight on how to go about being a sugar babe in my situation. Tons of sites devoted to it but if you don’t look a certain way that’s the end of it. I usually get a good response on my pics but that’s about it. The love the tits and smile.

  18. Mr.Loves2PamperSSBBW

    wheres all the sexy single bbw and ssbbw?
    well if there any ladies that are single hit me up and lets talk =0) hope all the sexy bbw find there love one like i am =0)

  19. Kaye

    I just do not think real Sugar daddies care for Ladies like me in general..
    50 yrs old, Short, SSbbw,, seems eye candy can be mean, cheat, harsh, self centered-but a real good Lady of size is still kept like a broom..
    Bought out after the party to clean up – do the dirty work after every ones gone and then put back in the closet till the next time.. Really do not know of any or heard of any Ladies of size treated like the Bell of the Ball……

  20. Kris Goodman

    this is a cool website for dating sugar daddies. i would like to try it.

  21. Kris Goodman

    i am a bbw looking for a nice man thaT CAN TAKE CARE OF HIMSELF

  22. shonda

    Ok this all sounds so great but yet unbelievable so where exactly can we find this Great assets we call Sugar daddies that love us bbw’s

  23. kiki

    What does SSBBW mean? I still don’t see this working. Is that a place for avg or bigger women to find a man of substance to pamper her?

  24. Mariah

    I am a thicker woman and I have been in search of a wealthy man. I have been on a sugar daddy site, not going to mention it but I have found that the men are in search of the thinner woman. I would love to find a site that BBW like myself can find a wealthy man and don’t have to compete with the thinner woman. If someone finds one please let me know cause I have had no luck!

  25. Mesnie Hellequin

    Your essay here is nothing more than patronising. As a BBW there is nothing more horrible to me than those patronising self pronounced bbw lovers who think they can treat bbw as if most guys didnt like them anyway and needed to be glad about a guy who “even” likes chubby.
    What is typical as well is the shizophrenia of your message. One the one hand you write “So why do we automatically assume that only exceptionally attractive girls are allowed to have a Sugar daddy? Face it, there are those affluent men out there who prefer to have woman that is a bit on the, umm, shall we say hefty size”

    which means nothing else but that for being attractive it takes slim and being “on the hefty size” means to be unattractive…

    and then you claim that “some guys” might like BBW (what do you want to imply with that ? that they like BBW “although” they are chubby and so unattractive or what…???) . When guys like BBW they dont like them “although” they are chubby but because they are chubby and they wont find them unattractive for being on “the hefty size” but they will find them attractive for being chubby.

    I never had any problems with guys, and where I live most guys do prefer slightly chubby women.

    A sociological phenomenon one can figure out is that a lot of guys think they can exploit the insecurity and the alleged “bad situation” of chubby people on this world by acting like a great generous hero when they like chubby women or when they go out preaching in the net that “some guys” would like chubby women and tolerance for that.

  26. meli ~*BBW*~

    That is a fact.
    Men are actually not really intrested in skinny nomore.
    If you ask a man do you want to marry a skinny chick with and ugly face or a thick chick with a pretty face? He’ll answer you a thick chick with a pretty face. I am positive.
    Today i was at the store and some guy was with his skinny girlfriend and he kept looking at me and smiling she said, “what u like her and lol’d i just smiled at her and then him and walked away.
    Some chicks are not jelouse of thick women till they notice their husband looking at one.
    “Im Proud Of My Curves!”

  27. i am the bbw that maybe 800 pds who thinks she is 100 pds .i amthe women who loves men who loves big women who am i a women who is big and loves who she is ask me and i shell tell you it s the women who love s to be spoil and pampered why not .i am love alll over .i that full figere wo men who holds its head hi i might not be small and i might be 800 pds but you will love me my heart is a mile..all the m,en that love full figered women holla at the girlllllll

  28. Faraja

    How refreshing to hear an intelligent man enjoy and appreciate the average women! Women are not so different from each other regardless of size. What we all want really is to love and be loved in and out of the bedroom. Thank you for you gift of words to those of us who are the average women.

  29. BBWinSC

    I am a BBW that has found an average size guy to worship her spunk, her humor, as well as her bodacious butt. :) (His words). It does happen. Some men like a lil junk in the trunk.

  30. Talha

    I love BBW’s infact I am crazy to have one….and specially mature one…….. looking wildly for a bbw buxom…..specially in Indo/Pak

  31. heather

    im a bbw and men love me!

  32. Amanda

    I am a WwW years old pretty bbw blonde with plus eyes big boobs nie style and really fun im lookin for a sugar daddy that ill take real good care of xxxx

  33. Quinn

    I’m a 24 year old BBW, 5’11, Black and Irish, piercings and tattoos, always changing hair. Interested in a sugar daddy or just a good man in general. I like older men. I have a lot of interests, I’ve been told I’m easy to get along with and that I am intelligent. I am in school for psychology (hoping to become a psychologist and criminal profiler).

  34. Kris

    I enjoyed the article, actually. Don’t read too much into it and make it into a negative article. I am a 26yo BBW…half Italian….proportionate with curves. Dark hair blue eyes. I have never had a problem with guys judging me for my weight. I have intelligence, an education and a great personality that wins them over aside from looks. I have been looking for a sugar daddy also but I am not looking for a one sided thing. I actually want a relationship where I am contributing to HIS happiness as well.

  35. Kim Shepherd

    This is a website where someone (like myself) can be appriciated.I,m a sincere, beautiful redhead.Looking for a man that can treat me the way I,ve always desired. Beacause I am so desirable

  36. Carol

    I’m not so much seeking some guy for his money…tho it would be nice if he had some. lol What I am seeking is only to be Accepted, Treated Tenderly and Respected AS IS ! Why do men judge woman by their age and/or weight? I’m a Widowed, 63 yr old BBW, and have been trying since 2008 to find someone who will Accept me…which has turned-out to be the hardest thing to find!!!! I AM 63, but the Wine of desire still flows like Lava through my veins…and I have a lot of good luvin’ to lavish on the right guy…if I ever find him!

  37. BIG SEXY

    luv to have the finer things in life, i work for everthing i have. Now i need someone to take care of me and i will take care of them.

  38. Annette

    To all the commens on it is so true Men donot know what to do with a super BBW or BBW they cry asking for a good woman and when that good one comes along and she is a BBW of all sizes than it oh no. Well to all my BBW sister we rock and they just donot know the great love they are missing. I would like to know if there are any true blue men out that that can love the inside of a woman and donot judge the outer.

  39. Tara House

    I am looking for someone who isn’t ashamed to be around a bbw and I am looking for a sugar daddy bacause I am in need of someone to take care of me for once.

  40. Lexi

    I am fun-loving bbw who loves to spoil my man. If he can afford to spoil me it just make it that much easier for me to give him the attention he deserves.

  41. Pamela

    I am a bbw and would love to meet my sugar.

  42. Lynsey

    I totally agree. I actually have had a lot of difficulties with men mostly because I live in a really small town ( and y’all who come from a small town know how that is) and it’s mostly white and it seems to me that most of the females are the ‘tiny’ girls petite and whatnot. While that’s great for them, most of the men around here seem to naturally gravitate toward them. I didn’t get my first date until 24. If I could find a website or if anyone on here knows of a website with men that prefer bigger women sugar daddies(it’s just easier to weed out the ones who only go for tiny chicks rather than girls with a bit more) let me know! :-) Thanks! It’s rather desolate out here.

  43. MonteBelle

    I love this.. so true ,so true!
    I am a BBW myself. I am very exotic struggling when younger between curvy and sbbw . Now I’m a mature 39yr. Old who is a sizr 18 standing 5’6 , I turn more heads with my confidence and beauty than when I was not accepting of my body type.
    I also was in a business where my looks were probably 90 percent of my popularity. I didn’t lose rather I gained more popularity when I gained.

  44. Pechanc (Patience)

    I have been look for men that like more of a woman. I am beautiful in a size 18-20, at 230lbs and just need an admirer. Every woman is beautiful no matter the size. I am so tired of society telling us we are not beautiful because there is more to us.

  45. Rhiannon

    Hello, I am a full figure woman I thought this sight
    Was great. I have talents that I will
    Revile if we make a connection
    Rhiannon.

  46. labellabianca

    How do you bbw’s find these sugar daddys? Its so hard for me to find one and I really need help. Please anyone have some advice on which site would be best for me?

  47. sweetnesd

    BBW looking for a sugar daddy to show me a great time & for me to show him a good time

  48. Lala franco

    Just ready for change need more laughter in my life

  49. Fushicho Kurayami

    I’m looking for my own sugar daddy that’s into BBW. I’m only 200lbs and wear it well being I’m pretty active. I swim and hike and bike ride and just walk around the city where I live. You know what pisses me off most, people always assume cause your big your just lazy. No idiots, some of us are part Hawaiian and have a naturally thick frame. In high school I was in karate and on the marching and jazz bands and we had four big dogs that i took care of as that was one of my daily chores, and I was 180 to 190 lbs then. I have thick muscular thighs and strong calves and large full boobs. I was built thick from day one being almost 9lbs when I was born. My son was born 9lbs, 24 inches. We are big boned in my family and im positive alot of BBW women are the same way, not lazy but genetically designed to be thick and full and soft and deliciously curved. We deserve to be spoiled and pampered just as much as any size zero

  50. sexysneez1

    OK WHERE IS THE MEN DO THEY EVER REPLY … WHERE IS THE MAN WHO LOVES TO EXPLORE THE DEEP INSIDE THOUGHT OF A FULL FIGURED WOMEN WHO DEEPEST FANTASY IS YOURS. THE THRIVE OF KNOWING WHAT TO TO DO. I AM A BBW WHO LOVES TO EXPLORE mORE THAN JUST THE THOUGHT OF ME MAKING YOU MY PERSONAL…OH I WONT TELL THAT ..BUT I AM A BBW IN THE LAND OF SURPRISES …COME IN THE FIELD OF UNTOLD THOUGHT OF MY ROMANCE THAT WILL MAKE YOU SO WEAK .IT SWEEPS YOU OFF YOU KNEES…COME ARE AFRAID
    IM WAITING ..COME EXPLORE THIS WONDERFUL BBW

  51. bunny549

    hells bells girls get over it if the guy doesn’t do it for ya go to the next guy they do it all the time …..sooner or later it will happen for you just keep swimming around theirs plenty of single fish just waitin to be caught and guys are just as vulnerable as we are as I hate to say it they do bleed im sure gonna ketchet for that one….

  52. cocobbw

    You know, you are the first one that has ever admitted this, and unfortunately, what you said about society is true. I myself have tried all of those “sugardaddy” sites before, and not for the reasons people might think. did I want a sugardaddy, yes, but only because the thought of someone finally taking Care of me, even just a little was extremely intriguing,especially after i take care of everyone else.. unfortunately, every time i thought i found one, they would tell me that I was to big to be seen with, and that they had to think of their image… just think of what people would say if they happen to see me with you…
    It’s sad really… one day people will be honest about their love for us, soft large women… :-)

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